I am the same way with the weight loss...I have had so many people tell me how "tiny" I am now and, like you, when I look in the mirror, I still see the heavier me!
I am finding this too. Strange.
(((CW))) sounds like you`re navigating tricky waters with the coparenting. I hope that your H steps up to the plate as a father.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
I keep thinking that my H and OW are so different too...she "was" pretty religious, her religion requires her to wear skirts, she is a homebody, plain, into health foods etc. My H is usually the center of attention at a party...likes to joke around, drink occassionally, likes his big bowl of ice cream etc. etc.
That is what makes all of this so weird!!!
Anyway, need to quit thinking about her!!! You too!
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Just had an interesting convo with H. Asked him if I had misunderstood about him calling the kids on Sat...he said no, he ended up having to work that night, asked if they were upset and I said they were disappointed. He said that was his fault, he dropped the ball...then, he asks me how I am liking the weather (it is rainy and cold) and then he says that he had been here and dropped off some wood in the pile and when he gets the splitter back, he will come and split it and get it stacked.
A few weeks ago, I told him that I was pretty sure that the kids and I would be moving out of this house...why is he bringing wood? Weird!
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CW, we will never understand why they do the things they do ...maybe it just relieves his guilt...or he likes chopping wood...or who knows he maybe he is reaching out???
Mine was coming to work on the garden and was helping me with things. I was hoping that it meant something...maybe it did at the time...if it did he pushed it away. They have to sort it all out...part of the long process.
Smart of you not to make to much of it
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CW, I totally understand why you question the things your H does, I do too. It's not that I have any expectations from it, it's just so that I know where to place my feet during the dance.
It also could be because MLCers are notorious for forgetting what we tell them that your H may have forgotten or just blocked the possibility of you and the kids having to move out of his mind.
Wondering if I should encourage them to call him more or just leave it up to them?
Leave it up to them entirely. It's their R, let them work on it or not.
Oh, and my H keeps walking around the yard, talking about how "we" need to spray the poison ivy, "we" should get walnuts in another two years, "we" should pay $2k for a new well pump. Who knows.
