imLin I will tell you a quick story.Before I was born my grandfather was friendly with my H's dad.The day my MIL found out she was expecting, she visited my gran and grandfather in their house.My MIL had not told anyone about her pregnancy.When she walked into my grans..my gran said immediately you are pregnant.My MIL was astounded..she was only weeks and she was expecting my H As the years went by, we went to same school and the proximity to where we each lived got closer until we lived next door to each other! Thats when we met at 15/16.We were inseperable from then on in. When I divorced my H the first time(a regret I will always live with) he always maintained that we were destined to be together. I said this to him in an early converstaion after he left.He said thats how he felt at the time. My spiritual healer told me my gran came through at my 1st healing and she said I have to let him go, he has to make his own mistakes,if he was stupid enough to go with someone who was no better tha a piece of s*** on your shoe then that was up to him.I had to GAL for myself and the girls.She said she wasnt saying I wouldnt be with him but let him go. I am sure he thinks we are better off without him, that he caused me so much pain. When I asked him the night I found out about A, I asked if he loved her.He said he didnt know.I asked if was in love he said immediately no. By the weekend he said I have not spent as much time with her as you think..I asked if its what he wanted, did he love her, was he in love with her and did she make him happy.He said yes but couldnt look me in the eye..guilt, lies,embarressment... dont know. The day he left I said hope she's worth it, he said there is nothing worth this... Thanks again for your strong and wise words.(((hugs)))
ME 44 H 45 D 14 D 20 M 22 YEARS TOGETHER 28YEARS Bomb Drop 14th July 09 Seperated-living with OW 10mths(14/07/09) MLC 3years
Silence wasn't golden in this marriage; it was deadly," Dr. Robin L. Smith
