My husband is addicted to an emotional affair

[nicole8]

Now more than ever I think my h is having a mid-life crisis brought on by the death of his father. He has created this reality for himself that he is a horrible worthless person. He doesn't have any clue what he wants. I read something interesting today, "personal happiness is pursue through the relationship not first by the elimination of the relationship". I thought this made some sense.

I also find it interesting that yesterday my h asked if I looked into myself being able to refinance the house... I told him I had done some work on it. Then he told me an offer came in the mail from our lender offering 2% interest. He thought maybe I could call and see if we qualified because we are looking at a possible d. Really, a possible d? WTF? I really think he has no clue where reality is at all.

I also find it interesting snd it does Hurt my feelings too, that he only feels the lump he gets in his throat when he comes over to our house... That makes a person feel really good. Yep! Then I remembered that this is the reality and justification he is trying to convince himself is the reason why he wants a d.

Arrrrggghhh! I am grumpy.