Semi-peaceful day. DD16 gave me a beautiful letter I will treasure forever and some chocolate which i ate immediately. The other 2 gave hugs, kisses and see ya laters.
A Text from H to which I didn't respond. Later a call about DD18, telling me what to say to her, what to do to her, how to maximize control over her....yea, yea, yea. I'll handle her the best I can but it will involve influencing her rather than controlling her. I told him that if we could control others, he would be living with his family. I followed that with asking if he'd seen his mother.
This opened a convo about his issues w/her. He mentioned, among other things, how he had few memories of her when he was growing up. He has said this before and that he has brought it up in IC. I suggested he look at her photo albums b/c he has probably repressed the memories as a defense mechanism. He is recognizing that I am the only one he can really talk to b/c I know who he is talking about. His IC, OW, whoever, hasn't lived the last 25 years with him. Sure they can TRY to validate, but when I do, it means something.
There's more:
DD16 had lunch w/him today. She took me out to dinner tonight. Over dinner, she said dad seems different somehow. She couldn't put her finger on it. hmmm..still has the graybeard tho. Am glad he is interested in the kids more.
Stepkids checked in. DSD says her dad is nuts and is getting more and more like his mother. DSD stayed away from grandma too. Soo sad for all of them.
"If you strike me down, I will become more powerful than you can possibly imagine!" 1st thread
