still separated, headed for D?

[flowmom]

(((Newmama))) I haven`t been as active on the forum lately, but I`ve missed you .

I am so proud of you for going to IC...C sounds great. I`d love to have someone like that in your corner. It`s awesome that he is giving you honest pro-M feedback.

I also hope that ADs help you the way that they have helped me. It probably took about 4 weeks for me to really notice the difference, but I am totally aware of the difference now. I feel like the ADs allow the good stuff that I do for myself to actually help. I was doing the work before, but I just couldn`t feel good.

I don`t consider myself dark, just dim. I allow pleasant interaction for the sake of the kids, but it`s very limited. If I want to discuss something about the kids, it`s usually by email and super short. If you are trying to set boundaries with your H about his physical presence in your home, I suggest talking about how you `need more space` but don`t explain anything about transitions, etc. `Needing more space` could be interpreted in ways that suggest that you are GAL, etc. Try to act like you`re quite happy to have him around, except that he`s getting in the way a bit.

I guess I am wierd because I think I eventually want to be friends with H. But then again I haven`t had to deal with the sickening details of OW(s).

Take care Newmama. You`re awesome