WN, although my original DDay was 1/09, WH started his A 10/08 (I suspect the EA started earlier).
Yesterday I thought- maybe this is the REAL WH and I lived with a phony...heck we were only together for 5 years when he left! But in your case, you knew your H waaaaay longer so you know the real him. Did you hear that Rielle Hunter (J Edward's OW) who said she was helping "Johnny" to live his "authentic life" and to discover his "authentic self." Ha! Apparently he lived 50+ years under a false identity (so to speak)? And thanks to her, he suddenly found his authentic self when he met her! What a crock!
Did you ever suspect he just freaked out and now guilt or pride is keeping him away? If he really thought he made a mistake marrying you, why didn't he cut his losses a year ago? That said, don't change your path. I just wonder the same about my H.
The more I read about MLCs, the more I think it is misnamed. As we age through life, we go through many transitions. Some are eagerly anticipated, some are dreaded, but people freak out at all of them. Some kids fail to launch, some people resist "settling down", some feel they have failed at parenting, some can't let go of their kids, and so on. It is strange how the coping mechanism for all of them seems to be the same... Everyone retreats to adolescence in some form.
When I say MLC to people, even IC, I hear ah yes new car, younger woman blah blah...even tho I bought the car and the younger woman is so ugly and barf i am insulted! Wish I could share a pic. You'd barf too cuz it is the inner ugliness that shows.
Kinda like Edwards' ho. Nothing pretty about her, although she appears to bathe. They must first weave a blinding web of self-deception before they can begin to deceive others. She sounded so foolish and didn't seem aware of it. She followed script very well.
"If you strike me down, I will become more powerful than you can possibly imagine!" 1st thread
