'Respond in a way that reflects your values and beliefs, not feelings..."
Love this!
I tried not to take over the conversation, so just allowed the silences. A 180 for me.
That's one of my 180s too!!! And it works... everytime I am quiet, i find H staring in my face!
Your post is not too long or boring! very interesting in fact!
I AM SO PROUD OF YOU and how you handled yourself today!
I read that you softened up and H came around a bit... that is definitely a tool that works too!
Definitely sounds like your H is having a MLC, and hopefully this is him coming out of his haze.
My H says things to me sometimes like, I did think of moving back home or going to MC or that I love you still, But I am afraid of telling you because if i do, you want to run with it and start fixing things and say well lets do something about it.
i am sure all of your H's feel the same way. But they are scared not only to admit it to themselves, but especially to us...
your BIL sounds like a good person to have around...
