Hi D$ML, Just a couple more things--can you tell me about the neediness? I never heard that one myself--what "is it" to a guy? If you don't call on him (check up on him) all the time?
Oh, I just thoguht of something--is your LL quality time? and his is something else? Maybe physical? Because I can see if you like to be "with him" a lot and it's not his love language he may be thinking that you are "needy" or "clingy".
Just musing aloud here....
I WILL say that in my sitch I am dressing more "sexy" and am starting to flirt more--something all men love and something I have not ever really done.
Another thing that I just started doing is thanking my husband for working so hard. He complains a lot about work and has many other options, so I would tell him to pursue other things in hopes he would complain less. But thanking him is hopefully going to result in less complaining--I just started that one so I'm not sure yet.
My H also spends TONS of time with his parents and they can do no wrong. I get a lot of criticism when they leave from their visits--H usually has a bit of a meltdown when they leave. He is an absolute ANGEL in front of them, and cannot keep up the pretense forever.
I won't go to their house any longer--I was never allowed to do anything but sit around. His mother is a nice person, but has nothing in the way of interests other than her husband and cooking/cleaning. She is one of the most boring people I know. Oh, she loves to knit. Ugh.
I think sometime my H wants a woman like that and is turning (or trying to) me into her. I would rather die than be that woman!lol.
Anyway, I think maybe 1/3 of that stuff is "legit". I heard a lot of similar stuff and you know, the minute I changed about 1/3 of the major things, the rest went majically away.
