GD - this is not an easy situation, I guess there is nothing much you can do legally to make him do it. I understand where you are coming from when you say that when you make a stand you feel disloyal, I have the same feelings...but look at your WH, how loyal is he to you...this is about the roof over the heads of his & your children and he wants to bargain.
You just have to go with your gut feeling on this one. (((hugs)))
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO