You sound like you wouldn't be pinched hard for the cost of a coaching session with a DB coach. I'm not one, should have used one, and have no association with them. The one thing I have seen here from those that had a couple phone sessions, expecially with Chuck, is that they wish they did it sooner and more often.
Just saying.
Hi, Chuck, good to see you on here. (Just kidding) I had Chuck for one session, should schedule another. I used Laurie last time, it helped ease my panic.
A friend gave me a Feng Shui book. My whole problem is: my Master Bath water closet is placed behind the wall at the head of my bed. This, apparently causes all positive energy to get flushed down the toilet. No wonder my life is in the toilet since we moved into this house. Weird. Hopefully a plant in there will help.
LMAO! Hi, WN- I guess this is your home thread? I think I will get a book on feng shui too- why not? Have you rearranged other stuff too?
Sorry to hear about your DD's roommate and puppy!!! Seriously, I think everyone has a psycho roommate in college. But the puppy is very disturbing and sad. I hope he didn't suffer. :-(
I have a question: what made you decide to start "peeking out" and going dim instead of dark? How did you transition out of dark? On the outside looking in on the last week or so of your thread, it looks like your old H is coming up for air, not that it means R is happening tomorrow. I still think it's a good sign that he is popping up more frequently and that he misses you. Yes, he is still in the A. I don't know about MLCs but it will be interesting to see how the next few weeks unfold!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
Yes this is home. I lost my thread on inf so dropped in here.
There is ton of stuff online about feng shui. My book is kinda technical and refers to special measurement tools a lot.
I don't think I decided to peek out. circumstances just seem to have required it. AND I was feeling more in control of myself. I do not respond to the "hi" and "miss you" and even the financial stuff waits. Most of the kid stuff i redirect to them. Other than yesterdays call for help, I never initiate.
Re: what he is doing....I think he would prefer that I be ok with this arrangement, be his friend and partner, AND have the freedom of living with OW w/o responsibility. Other than yesterday, he only pops in when it is convenient for him. He is just curious about my changes. I am hoping he is beginning to see OW for the manipulator she is...but then i have been hoping that for quite awhile...
Heading out to take my mom, nieces and nephews, and kids out for breakfast. Mom has to work tomorrow.
Thanks for visiting nm! I was getting lonely!
"If you strike me down, I will become more powerful than you can possibly imagine!" 1st thread
WN, although my original DDay was 1/09, WH started his A 10/08 (I suspect the EA started earlier).
Yesterday I thought- maybe this is the REAL WH and I lived with a phony...heck we were only together for 5 years when he left! But in your case, you knew your H waaaaay longer so you know the real him. Did you hear that Rielle Hunter (J Edward's OW) who said she was helping "Johnny" to live his "authentic life" and to discover his "authentic self." Ha! Apparently he lived 50+ years under a false identity (so to speak)? And thanks to her, he suddenly found his authentic self when he met her! What a crock!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
Start making space for a love relationship to come into your life. Study the feng shui use of essential oils, candles, crystals to raise the vibrations of your home.
Have images of happy couples, use simple feng shui cures for love, such as things in pairs in the Southwest corner of your bedroom and home.
Having a strong personal energy field will help you stay in the present moment and heal your heart, and sometimes the healing includes grieving and letting go. _------------- THIS PART WAS ADVICE FOR SOMEONE WHO WANTED TO GET BACK TOGETHER WITH AN EX: Even if this relationship cannot be rekindled, it is an act of blessing to reveal the love that is still there; and then, by being released, its energy will find the right course for your own highest good. However, if the strong love bonds are still flowing in both directions, you might be in for a great and beautiful surprise!
Only a healed and open heart will allow you to accept, cherish, and keep love, no matter new or old; and feng shui wisdom is always there to help you attract and nourish the energy of love.
Found this on about.com and took excerpts....kind of funny where it says to heal your heart it can mean grieving and letting go (i.e. detaching???).
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me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
WN, although my original DDay was 1/09, WH started his A 10/08 (I suspect the EA started earlier).
Yesterday I thought- maybe this is the REAL WH and I lived with a phony...heck we were only together for 5 years when he left! But in your case, you knew your H waaaaay longer so you know the real him. Did you hear that Rielle Hunter (J Edward's OW) who said she was helping "Johnny" to live his "authentic life" and to discover his "authentic self." Ha! Apparently he lived 50+ years under a false identity (so to speak)? And thanks to her, he suddenly found his authentic self when he met her! What a crock!
Did you ever suspect he just freaked out and now guilt or pride is keeping him away? If he really thought he made a mistake marrying you, why didn't he cut his losses a year ago? That said, don't change your path. I just wonder the same about my H.
The more I read about MLCs, the more I think it is misnamed. As we age through life, we go through many transitions. Some are eagerly anticipated, some are dreaded, but people freak out at all of them. Some kids fail to launch, some people resist "settling down", some feel they have failed at parenting, some can't let go of their kids, and so on. It is strange how the coping mechanism for all of them seems to be the same... Everyone retreats to adolescence in some form.
When I say MLC to people, even IC, I hear ah yes new car, younger woman blah blah...even tho I bought the car and the younger woman is so ugly and barf i am insulted! Wish I could share a pic. You'd barf too cuz it is the inner ugliness that shows.
Kinda like Edwards' ho. Nothing pretty about her, although she appears to bathe. They must first weave a blinding web of self-deception before they can begin to deceive others. She sounded so foolish and didn't seem aware of it. She followed script very well.
"If you strike me down, I will become more powerful than you can possibly imagine!" 1st thread
