Well I am not completely out of the woods yet, but here is what I know about my WAW. When she told me ILYBINILWY and started her affair she thought their was absolutely no way that we could ever work. one of the first things she said was "people don't change" For the next 6 months I was on a mission to prove her wrong. It wasn't changes I made for her, they were all for me and any future relationships I was going to have. I think some big factors in her change of heart were 1)Exposure of the Affair 2) I didn't say much throughout our seperation and let my actions show that I had changed 3)I reached the point where I really didn't care any longer if we were going to be together. I was very happy by myself and I had plenty of people interested in me. I knew for sure that I didn't need her. 4) She was close to filing and was holding up. She knew that if this is how it ended, I would no longer be her friend, our conversations would only revolve around the kids. She also knew that if she D me and stayed with her BF I would never talk to or accept him. She also knew that if it didn't work out with him I would no longer be an option for her. Women would kill to have a man like me and I would never accept being anyone's second choice.
so summarized for me it was exposure, change, moving on and fear of loss that all contributed to positive change on her part.
