Just as I am reading your above post, DD18 storms in yelling "Dad won't answer his phone cuz he is busy with the ho! He is never here when I need him!" She is having a problem with her car and trying to fix it herself.
I said the same thing you did...Thanks for that....that there could be any number of reasons why he doesn't answer. I think we have to let them figure out what kind of relationship they are going to have with their dad, while supporting them and making sure their choices are based on thought rather than reacting to hurt. Poor dumplins. I hate to see this all hurt them too.
"If you strike me down, I will become more powerful than you can possibly imagine!" 1st thread
WN, thanks for your response. I've let them establish what kind of relationship they have with their dad for the most part. This incident threw me a little because D11 was so very hurt and angry.
I guess we can't protect them from all of the fallout...
One of the issues my S13 had was he was unable to tell his dad what he thought so all his angst became physical symptoms i.e tummy and headaches.
After counselling he learnt that he should tell his dad how he felt and did!
Your D is very strong, although she is hurting, as she left him a message and told him exactly how she felt about him not answering his phone.
I would be inclined to see if D and your H can sort this out between them as your D seems to know her mind. Eventually as we all know he will have to face these issues. Maybe check with your D to see if your H has apologised etc. She may need your support if he continues to ignore her.
SA I feel for your D . I personally wouldn't say anything....he already knows, your D left an angry voicemail. Your D is hurt by this she will likely talk to him about it next time she sees him...
If you step in he may see it as blaming.
Just my opinion...
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M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
I hope you are doing well! I was catching up on your thread & to answer your question about how the h was before the bomb, my h was also moody & would get angry, this was before ow was in the picture, after he met her he was distant. She was in another state but I'm sure he felt guilty.
Have you read the book by Jim Conway, Men In Midlife Crisis? It describes my h to a tee! Even the part about his childhood.
No, I haven't read the Conway book yet. It's on the list.
Hope you get your legal business taken care of without having to involve a L. Geez, you'd think after all this time you wouldn't have to keep dealing with that kind of stuff.
