Pearlharbr - how do I find you on FB? I can't really go joining any DB FB sites as I don't want anyone who is still in contact with STBXW knowing this part of my business. Damn the personal msg thing being defunct. Cottage is likely to be available at Hogmanay - I always have to work either Xmas or NY and as we split our shifts amongst each other and don't really get chance to go away as usually only get about 36hrs off before another shift. Busiest time of year for us Emergency Medicine folks. It will be lovely up there with the woodburners on - I really miss it and am hoping to manage a winter week up there at some point.
JacT - thanks. I do hope you're right. The mutual friend I saw today confirmed that there was no apparent reason for STBXW to be in my neighbourhood, and STBXW had phoned for directions on how to get here from her home. The mutual friend brought it up, so get points for not mentioning the STBXW too. So it could've been either a 'fact finding mission' or a 'get you off my back' event.
Reality is that which, if you don't believe in it, doesn't go away.
