Lola, This is a very good thread. I think what everyone said is truly amazing and just how I get through my days (and nights) sometimes.
Of course, I'm not divorced yet, but having been separated now for almost two years, and ... in the process, I think my back-and-forth swaying of negative thought process stems, too, from resolving myself to always having feelings for the man - not necessarily for the husband, but for the man that he was. And, truthfully, although I never voice this here, I feel sorry for him sometimes.
I don't think it's fair for me to ever say nasty things about him, but I'm human. After all the hurt he's caused me, is still causing me, I just pray for God to forgive him. I hope that doesn't sound too condescending, but I have to do something when I feel emotional pain. So, that's what I do.
As for being a hermit, I join the ranks here.
poet, shrugging my shoulders and thinking, "I'm just not that into it."
