About your H not calling the kids. I think he needs to hear that the kids are disappointed and miss him. When it comes to kids and parents, the PARENTS (your H) are supposed to call the kids and reach out! They are the adults!

But a schedule could help with this too. I have read other threads where the LBS does tell their kids to call their dad. It can help to get the dad to not feel like he has screwed up so much that his guilt gets deeper and deeper and his distance grows.

What do you think about this CW? Pros and cons?

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004