Something the Lord caused me to remember from my own situation was this:

At first my husband was drawn to the OW and her ways...as he was different, her difference was an attraction. OW was a direct opposite of me. She made him feel special, accepted, but it didn't go physical, until he was trying to get away from her within the final three months.

I also remember Him showing me that this had been a replay of the relationship with his mother that didn't break as it should have when he was a young man.

The friendship went on for around a year and a half, with it pushing toward affair status the final six months.

As time went on, he began to realize that he didn't love OW, he loved ME...and as hard as he'd tried to get ME out of his heart, it wasn't working.
First loves don't die, apparently, and I was "the one", the actual love of his life. Though she occupied a spot in his heart for a time, I had ALWAYS been there, we had the history together.

The bomb I faced was internet porn, and that bomb, in effect, began to cause him to understand that if he didn't do something, he would LOSE me. This was HIS awakening.

He had not told OW he was married, but in a naive way, he thought that if he told her she'd dump him...but she didn't..she was in "luv" with him, and wanted to keep him.
And went to GREAT lengths to try and do that, even down to getting our home number to try and harass me, when he'd told her to leave me alone.

Even when he told her he wanted to go back and work on his marriage, she didn't "get it" that she'd lost; and kept trying.

From what I further understood, he had never intended the affair to go physical, but it did, because OW tricked him into it, using the hormonal changes he was going through and with the misguided notion that sex was the key to keeping him.
That put the fear of God into him, but apparently wasn't enough, because he fell three times, and I confronted him HARD each time I saw the signs.

When she thought she'd "won", she started speaking badly of me; and to him, that was the WRONG thing to do....he told her off, stopped taking her calls, and she kept on for nearly two months before stopping.

The Lord further showed me that she "purged" the experience, and that was why she didn't appear to know who he was when he called her three months later AFTER she finally stopped calling.....I guess he thought he got away with it, I don't really know; and it doesn't matter. He claimed that he'd found the number and wondered what it was, but I already KNEW what it was, and he never knew I'd picked up the extension, and was listening in on his call to her.
She sounded just like his mother, and that really floored me.

I also remember when I hit him with different details, I saw the look of "how do you know that?", before he started yelling/denying. LOL!! And I COULDN'T have known unless I'd been a fly on the wall.

The idea here is that God is more than capable of ensuring things come out within His Will. He CAN increase a spark of love within a WAS/MLC'er's heart to a flame.
I KNOW, I've seen it happen. His time is not OUR time...He is an "Ontime" God..always moving, working on time.
He is also a God of peace, love and hope; always there to help us when no one else is.

We have to understand the only way out of a trial is THROUGH; no short cuts allowed. smile

The only thing He will NOT do is tamper with Free Will that is given to ALL people.
He will give us the desires of our hearts, but we are NOT to question what we see, except to understand what we must do to get through what is set before us.

I know what GoodAttitudeGirl has posted is correct, the Lord DOES allow us to know things for a reason...as long as we are open to His guidance, He will supply us with insight for understanding, and for the sharing with others of what we know.

No life is ever perfect, but when we stay open to his guidance, we will continue to learn what He would have us learn.

That still small voice is NOT going to tell us wrong, and we learn to recognize His voice, when it instructs us to do something.

His instruction doesn't always seem to make sense, but when we obey that instruction, THEN it becomes clear what the outcome will be.

So, I obey Him, pay attention, ask questions. He does NOT have to do what He does, His reasons are His own..and though He doesn't really "need" us to help Him, we are LEARNING something when we do what He asks us to do.

He has blessed me richly over time, and it has not been in a material sense. I have obeyed Him when the odds looked like they were stacked against me MANY times, not just during his MLC.

Satan, by the same token, has worked hard against me as well, as he targets those who can do the most damage to him.

One person CAN make a difference, and God will use that person in various different ways to make that difference.

I owe Him my life, and use what He has given me to help others.

Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.