reconciliation after divorce?

[Abbey]

Well... supportive is in the eye of the giver and receiver. Since I don't have any idea what your W is like... who knows how she actually would view anything. Uhm... it's a crap shoot to do a 180 and not be supportive because you might send her away. Do I think it'll hurt in the long run. Probably not. She's so messed up right now that she'll forget about if she "needs" to, should she want to go somewhere familiar for some comfort.

Something else... they rewrite history. OH man, do they ever like to rewrite history. So for what it's worth...a simple approach might be the best avenue here. You're going to be blamed for not being supportive enough, even when you fell over backwards to be so. And equally you'll be thought of as smothering when you weren't even in town that week. *smile*

Try to stick to a simpler version of the course... maybe just listen and say nothing. ... hmmm... it might work... say as little as possible when she reaches out to you. Don't turn your back on her... but just clench your teeth together and resist the urge to do much more than nod. When you see your IC next... ask her for some buzz phrases on how to interact with her eg: Help me understand. How so? Simple non-specific things... to keep HER talking. The more someone talks about themselves, the more oft, they tend to bond with the person they're talking to. IT's worth a shot.

*hugs*
Abbey