2 weeks left to DB

[newmama]

Piano I was looking forward all day to reading how it went with your WH! Your post was not boring, silly- you are a great writer and I love to read your thoughts! You did amazing- I was especially impressed with how you let the silence be there in between conversation- good move! I probably mentioned somewhere how my therapist recommends doing that sometimes so that WH is forced to reflect on the situation, not avoid, and can feel free to share what he wants. That is exactly what your H did!

OK so I find it interesting how your H is showing excitement about the baby but is ambiguous about being there for the birth or shortly after. Have you ever considered it could do with OW not wanting him to be there- or that he feels like it wouldn't be fair to her? Not that you could do anything about it but it is just strange how he won't commit to meeting his daughter!

Now when you talked about the old familiar interaction happening between you and your H- we all can relate. I have that from time to time as well. Old Pilot posted a thread about signs of MLC WAS "reconnecting" with LBS.You might want to check it out if you think your H fits MLC (they have As too). The main points that stood out to me: there will be times when you recognize your old H- this is him peeking through his haze. And when they finally start to come back, the LBS is the last one they connect with...they will resume old friendships, old ways of dressing, reconnect with family....all before reaching out to LBS. LBS are the first one they disconnect with when they enter their MLC though!

NOT that your H is exiting his MLC if he has one, but I found the post helpful to read to recognize signs. Gee the biggest one being that they end the A!

Oh yeah- I was happy to read that your H is looking like crap and stressing out about his life. HA! And you were holding your head high and doing fine! Well sure, your H is stressed and I am sure there is trouble in paradise with OW...but that doesn't mean the A has ended yet. (insert angry face!)

I can't believe you had the energy to bake a cake...and you are still walking around...go Piano!