still separated, headed for D?

[newmama]

Thanks Piano! I am about to tackle the kitchen after I finish my coffee and DBing. It is Mother's Day for you, too!!

OK want to share a little about meeting my new friend. She is a free spirit type- yet responsible with her son, bills and money.

It was interesting to hear about divorce based on someone who didn't cheat or have an MLC. She and her H met, had chemistry, got married 6 months later, were married for 6 years, but he was "lazy, controlling, mean." So she divorced him. They stayed friends but 2 years later slept together and she got pregnant with her now 3.5 year old son. Apparently her ex is an on again/off again dad. She says she never had a dad, so she figures having one in his life is better than nothing as long as he doesn't abuse him or something. She says it will show him "what not to be like" when he gets older. ???? Interesting perspective!

She had a very rough childhood and said it all just showed her what not to do. She was overweight her whole life and was put down. She still is today, but is like a large hourglass. YET she is very confident, open minded, fearless, always can pick up a guy (one was a hot 21 year old surfer in Costa Rica- she swears by "international men" ) and is now looking for someone serious, not a fling.

So why do I tell you about her? Well because I need to learn from her- get some of her zest for life, and willingness to do daring things! I think I will stick to being cautious about men though (lol!)And we will do things again. She wants me to go to a kayaking event with her. Am trying to figure out a way to do it (complications around daycare for S).