reconciliation after divorce?

[Abbey]

I thought I did use the straightforward approach with my note yesterday. Maybe Glimmerman is right and I have told her I would be there for her enough at this point.

I am at a loss.

But you're at a loss what to do "with her", too. You're trying to be as supportive as you can... in a way that you hope she needs... problem still is... you don't know what she needs and she's exasperating you in the process because she's not letting you in on the rules of the game, no?

I can't remember where I got this line but: "Help me to understand". I think the best you can do at this point is to chip away at the layers of the onion slowly... cuz she's clearly all over the place. When she comes to you, say little, ask very simple questions like you're talking to a 5 year old. Anything further I think is pressuring her for answers she doesn't have at this point.

I got to thinking last night about yours and Mystik's sitch... That mantra about don't believe about 90% of what they say and do applies here. I don't think they know what's going on with them, so asking them for definitive answers isn't going to get you any closer to the truth. They simply don't know where they're heads are at, at present. Their attention span is very small and twisted.

Abbey