rysmom's story

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If your h is coming over today w/the police to get his belongings, the only things that he should be removing are: personal items, i.e., clothes, jewelry, toothbrush, etc., and those items that he purchased prior to the marriage. If he has cameras or equipment that he uses for his job, then allow him to take those. However, you need to document what he is taking. All other items are considered jointly owned and would need to be discussed, negotiated and agreed upon for a split in assets. Walk the space w/him and make sure that the police here every word that is said and when he's done, ask the police for a report. You may need this later as proof of what he's taken and the conversation that transpires. You will need to be strong today and do not cry or beg. Treat him as you would the termite exterminator. Business face today.

My xh came to our home w/two deputies in 2000. He arranged the escort w/o me knowing about it, but it backfired on him because he demanding items that I had completed (cross stitched items) and items that I had purchased after he left. The deputies realized he had screws loose and watched him closely. I asked him twice if he had gotten all that he came for and his response to my final question was that he would go back and make a list of what he wanted. I told him that he had better take what he wanted while he was here or there would be no more requests for items from the home. He did go back to his lawyer and state that he hadn't gotten all of his personal items....I responded by submitting to my lawyer the police report that I had requested along w/a listing of items that he took. His lawyer never raised the issue again....my xh got nothing more from the home.

Stay strong! I will be thinking of you and praying for you today. It's never easy, but when they show up w/the police, now that's a different story.