D, It's the guilt eating at her. Apparetnly every time she has communications w/family, she's feeling a bit of guilt and shame for what she's done. They don't have to say one word, but she knows what they are thinking.
She's projecting on to others because she cannot look at herself in the mirror just yet. She's been questioning things in her mind since the day the Mother Ship took her.
BTW, email, facebook, etc. are safe havens for them and they can communicate better using these tools because they don't have to look at us in the face or hear our voices. Why? personal contact makes them feel guilty.
Detach a bit more and allow her comments to roll off your back.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
