Something that I tend to believe is that there are often multiple affairs with MLC.
The MLCer is searching for something to make them happy.
That takes many forms, gambling, drinking, making over their body, shopping, and yes, other people.
All of it, is a direct result of them running from the pain that they are feeling. Doing anything they can to avoid having to look inside of them selves and deal with things.
We get blamed because they can’t acknowledge any other thing as the source of their unhappiness.
We then get pulled back, receive mixed messages, because on some level, they do know that it is not because of us and that they are not really as certain of their choices as they want people to think.
They lie.
To us, to others, to themselves.
This is the reason that it is necessary to take the focus off of them. If we don’t, we will end up as confused as they are.
Originally Posted By: SecondChance
Always thought of the husband as provider, but doesn't have to be that way.
Yes in many households this is true, however, we are living in a time where it does not have to be.
Part of MLC, part of the LBS journey through MLC, is to change our thinking. Our views of the world, love, life, ourselves, our children, and our prescribed roles, and yes, even our spouses.
Don’t be afraid of things that challenge your old beliefs. You may be surprised what you learn…
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
