Don't answer if you aren't up to it, but were those witnesses/handler/photographer primarily your friends or hers? I'm 'friendly' with the woman I'm concerned about "helping" my wife, but I seriously doubt she's acting as a die hard advocate for holding it together. She is essentially, my wifes 'friend' who I am also on friendly terms with. I hope that makes sense.
Mix of both of our friends. 1 witness each. Photographer was her friend but we had become close in the last few years. She was most upset when I said I didn't want to maintain a friendship with her as she coudln't support our marriage. She still contacts me, and I ignore it. She knew about the OM before I did. The dog handler is just about a mutual friend again now. I struggle to let go of him as he has been a staunch support of me and for that I am grateful. I can't tell him to sod off after all the nights he spent with me whilst I was crying and feeling suicidal, he has been a shining beacon of compassion in all of this. I'm sad he's not got the guts to tell the STBXW what he tells me he thinks of her, but he has always been one to avoid confrontation at all costs.
Incidentally I think it may be time to get a bit tougher with your wife. She needs to see some consequences. Sort out that bank account. I had lots of hot air from mine when I spoke about taking her to small claims court for money she owes me, and guess what. Within 72hrs of the papers landing on her doormat she was at my door with her chequebook. 2 months of letters and emails and text messages asking for and eventually demanding money and threatening court just got me counter threats which were obviously rubbish. The action had her come to this side of town for the first time in her life, never mind our separation.
I may be mistaken, but that appears to be the first positive I've seen in months. Now I just wish the OM would disappear in a puff of smoke.......
Reality is that which, if you don't believe in it, doesn't go away.
