thanks for the advice guys. i agree. i don't believe that "phasing out" will work. I talked to him last night. I said that I would not accept an open marriage. I would not stay with someone who lies to me and that I would never accept any kind of relationship with the OW ever. then he started crying and begged me not leave him. my heart broke all over again. how can i live with myself knowing that i'm hurting him so badly? i know he's hurt me more, but i know what it feels like and i'm not malicious. I don't want him hurt. i love him and i don't want him to hurt. i don't know how to leave. i don't know how to cause him pain like he's caused me. He's weak, i know. he's selfish, i know. but he's also so much more than that. What is wrong with me? how can i love someone so much who hurts me so much?
When you are happy as an individual, you are in a better position to determine whether a partner enhances your happy life or weighs it down.
