Hi starvingartist, Sorry you find yourself here. I'm in a fairly similar situation to you, and my heart goes out to you. My H and I have been emotionally distant, and very little physical affection for years; very little sex for years (only 3x since last summer - two were train wrecks). It's just in the last year or so I've finally woken up to how badly it's affected me, and am trying to change the marriage. I too have thought about the possibility of an affair, in fact there's a man I'm interested in (I don't think he returns the feelings but am not sure); I'm trying to stay away from him though. Just confuses me further when I'm around him. Tell me more about your sitch - how long have you been married, how did this all start etc. I know exaclty what you mean about being the one trying to keep it together, while at the same time having one foot out the door. Too well. It is an awful feeling isn't it. I know too, what you mean about GAL being good for you but sending the 'ok' message to him. Are you guys in counselling?
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
