welcome and sorry you are here. my h didn't touch me for three years and then decided to start touching someone else. turns out, he'd been mourning a death of a person he never told me about. is there something in his life causing him stress? Work? family? loss of a loved one? do you think he is depressed? all those could be signs of lost interest in sex. don't cheat. as the victim of a cheating spouse, please please don't allow this to happen to you. I know you are frustrated. i was frustrated too. get a vibrator. book massages regularly. make sure you are getting lots of hugs from same sex friends. find a healthy outlet for your sexual frustrations. pain beats regret every day of the week and twice on sundays. an affair is never the answer. I can't even begin to describe the level of pain i've been suffering since my h affair. MWD has a book called the sex starved wife. That might give you some more ideas on how to rekindle that desire with your h. best wishes in your struggle.
When you are happy as an individual, you are in a better position to determine whether a partner enhances your happy life or weighs it down.
