I have a lot of 180s but you cant completely change who you are over night. But the bad parts are gone.
I have done my homework about myself and my XW and can see where things went wrong.
I never got the whole "discover yourself" thing. That may be what my MLC batchitcrazy XW is doing now but I knew who I was way before then. I just didnt own my flaws like I should. "finding yourself" sounds too much like tree-hugging hippie crap to me LOL. I have my latitude and longitude. It's where I am.
Now I will be honest. Am I over my ex-wife? Yes and no. I will always think of her every day for the rest of my life and it will always hurt me until the day I die. BUT I will not let that ruin the fact that I can love another woman just as much if not more and be happy with another and make another woman happy. I can also function perfectly as a husband to some one else.
I love women. Ironically I love them even more now that I am divorced and have been hurt by one. Crazy right? But it's how I feel.
And hell YES I am ready to fall in love again. My X is never coming back. That is clear now. So I am sitting here waiting for my mathematically computed generalization of love to come true LOL. Damn, time to lay off the Kentuky whisky and coke zero LOL.
Sorry for the rant and sorry for the hijack.
Me:48 W:55 M:22 T:23 Bomb:19Nov09 S:15Jan10 D:11Feb10 EA:Confirmed on 20Apr10 Fast track to her divorcing me