Thanks for the 2x4. I've spent the last several weeks thinking hard about what you said. The communcation with the OM I noted aboved is from the mass texts that she sends out on holidays, etc... to everyone on her phone list. Yes OM is still on those lists. I'm torn on confrontation about this. Telling her that I need her to stop it and for her to remove his number from her phone, will give away my intel sources. I continue to have the ability to check her cell phone and her activities, without having to expose my sources. It is spying. I know that and also know she is not communicating with OM, except when sending out those mass texts. I'm not in piceing either. I'm here to seek advice from the experts on how to move into piecing. It's coming up on two years since bomb #1. It's been almost a year since bomb #2. It's been several months of many small positive movements. I'm still following the advice from Sandy on not bringing up any R talk and not intitiating any physical contact. But the fear is that she is now moving into cake eating and becoming comfortable in a platonic relationship. Looking for suggestions on how to begin to push forward, or if I even should. Reading here has made me realize that I'm not in piecing yet, but how do you get there when W doesn't want to talk, doesn't want to go to MC, doesn't want to acknowledge any progress and won't talk to you, while at the same time not inititating any R talks? The last time I asked about "us" - "how am I doing, how are we doing", she just walked away and said nothing. I acted as if. So any thoughts?
