We're not really piecing....that's the thing. I don't know WTH to call it!!!!
I'm going to spend a lot of this weekend trying to be more specific with myself and you all. It has to help. You guys give me GREAT ideas and direction to take my thoughts. Without that I spin in circles like a darned dog chasing it's tail.
Of course you aren't in piecing. Don't even begin to think you are in piecing. You have been dating a guy for a few weeks with whom you started having sex too soon. Both of you are emotionally invested in the R, neither of you knows what you want long term.
QUIT trying to see the future. You can't.
NOTHING wrong with wanting a partner who communicates with you. If Gabe isn't that partner, so be it. But give the guy a chance, GEEZ. You keep prejudging him. You keep assuming. Stop it.
Regarding the martyr crap, I can't even bear comment on it. You are a grown woman making you own choices. No one is entitled to treat you in a way you don't want. You are not obligated to accept any facet of an R that doesn't work for you.
That being said, you aren't even giving yourself or Gabe a chance to be a good partner. Be who you want to be, then see who he is. You are consistently wrong about the content of his internal dialogue and his motives. Why don't you wait and see what they are before you base your choices on lies that you tell yourself.
