Thinking About Life after Divorce

[Gnosis]

I keep hearing two statstically based recommendations:

1) You should wait at least a year after a d before getting involved in a new R.

2) It takes 3-5 years after the end of a significant R before you can comfortably exist in a new one without the old one impinging.

Any comments?

While statistics are good... don't forget what statistics really are >>> GENERALIZATIONS. Mathematically computed.

IMHO, I think that people who have taken the time to correct their mistakes, done their 180's and learned their lessons... these people can exclude themselves from generalizations >>> provided they HAVE done the work.

Generally, it is good to take some time off to discover yourself. Make sure you know what you want. Hold onto your changes and discoveries. If you can do that... then the time limits do not apply. Here's the thing that people forget: time limits are man made restrictions. You will be ready for another R when you're ready. This depends on the person i.e. YOU and on the circumstances. Do not restrict yourself and do not have the expectation that when X period finishes a new R will simply pop up.

What you will find Thinker is that when you're busy enjoying life, and your surroundings, women that want what you've got will pop out of the woodwork. No need to write them off prematurely.

Enjoy life and take advantage of the opportunities.