Originally Posted By: Greek
BO,
So to your original question about what one could do to offset the influence of WAS friends...
Greek


Hey Greek,
Thanks for that, that was more of what I'm looking for, folks actual experiences with what they did or didn't do and how they felt the outcome worked out. Interesting perspective too, thank you.

I do need to point out though that While I initially told her I didn't want her talking to her friend about our relationship, it wasn't probably fifteen twenty minutes later that I apologized and told her I didn't have the right to tell her who she could or couldn't talk to or about what, and I did that WELL before I ever made my first post here. I figured that one out pretty quick myself, heheh. And I did state that already.

Unfortunately many here don't seem to remember that, and assume I want to jump up and build some sort of wall between them, being the arrogant S.O.B. folks have decided I am.
I admit . . to YOU folks, that it eats at me every time this woman calls. But I just "grin and bear it" even when she walks out to the front porch to talk. I actually make a point of making sure she knows I'm not listening, usually by either coming to the computer, which she can see from the window, or going out to my shop, anything to 'appear' that it does'nt bug me and I'm not spying or eavesdropping.

A minor concern, though I haven't seen any real evidence of it, is that she might be a little puzzled that it doesn't seem to bother me more (believe me, it bothers me immensely)

The other day, she came in after I saw her sit on the porch talking, and she kinda "too" casually declared "That was (friends name here)". I just asked casually if they'ed finished with the Crown molding yet (her friend and her husband are remodeling)

Not sure how it's going overall, really. On the plus side, she isn't as crabby, and she actually initiated the first sex in months just last night, though she told me not to "read too much into it" I just said "I'm not" which was true actually, I'm not gonna read too much into that.

Anyway, again thanks . . . . I appreciate you addressing what I actually started this thread for.

Last edited by Bummedout; 05/09/10 03:01 AM.
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