rysmom's story

[TrentC]

I am very sad today. h said he is going to come with the police tomorrow to get his stuff. i dont know what to do.

Call your lawyer. I don't know what the law is like where you live, but I helped a person move out of her house pending a divorce and they had a very clear itemized list from the court saying what she was allowed to take out of the house. I don't know that he can just come over with some cops and take whatever he wants.

And I echo what bluestar said: what kind of man plans to come over on Mother's Day to do this? He seems to have very little respect for you or your feelings.

His mother called me and said really mean and nasty things.

Ignore her; odds are good that she is only getting one side of the story. And that will be his mess to clean up, one way or the other.

I think it is over and Im so depressed.

Of course you are. You are choosing to believe the worst about the situation.

I went back and looked and you started posting again in October of 2009. It is now the beginning of May. That's seven months, and you seem to be in the same place you were when this started again.

How much time have you lost where you could have been working on a positive plan of action for your life instead of snooping in his web history and stalking him?

How has anything you have tried to do helped the situation? One of the core tenets of DBing is if some approach doesn't work, try another one.

You say your Christian counselor is helping; what kind of advice are you getting from them? What about talking to a marriage counselor or a personal counselor?

My lawyer said dont let him take anything but I know this will lead to d if I stop him.

And what do you think will happen if you let him take his stuff?

You're reacting out of fear, and you have done nothing but react out of fear the entire time. Every time he says or does something, you fall apart.