MH...wow! YOu have done a lot of thinking and asking questions of yourself. It is possible to be dim with your H living with you. It is totally up to you and what you are comfortable with and if someone leaves, it should be your H but with your children being step children...how would that work?

Whatever you decide, I know you will be ok!

M48 H53
M16 T18
S16 D13
SS30
H drops bomb PA/8-30-09
H leaves 12-30-09
D filed by H 2-10
H asks to come home 4-11
Piecing