Shel..I know its hard but you need to calm down.You are looking at the negatives.I did it too and still do it to an extent. I did the same for my H.Did manual work encouraged him to go back to college, paid for him to do so while I worked my a$$ off, got his result and went into the job of his dreams..health and fitness gym instructor..well did good job of that cos if I hadnt he would still be doing his dirty work in an all men environment and wouldnt have had an A.. Can you see we all do it.You have to remember the good things you gave your H..and did so because you LOVED him and he knows that somehwere in his crazy head. We all have choices..how many times have you been annoyed at what your H done? You DIDNT go out to burst up your family and be downright awful..Its not him you see..its a man whos struggling with who he is. Take your time reading so you take it in.I have read that site hundreds of times end to end..BUT whatever you do do not blame you.You cant change the past..cant but you can shape your future..work on you.Be who you want to be..sometimes we can be mother and wives too long so long we lose sight of who w are. Shel you are a good wife and wonderful mother..your path may change but your are in the driving seat..Make life what you want it to be...YOU CAN (((HUGS)))
ME 44 H 45 D 14 D 20 M 22 YEARS TOGETHER 28YEARS Bomb Drop 14th July 09 Seperated-living with OW 10mths(14/07/09) MLC 3years
Silence wasn't golden in this marriage; it was deadly," Dr. Robin L. Smith
