Thank you all for your posts. I have to think, newmama, still what this means. I want him to move out, but I would not ask for that. More like just not being available and leaving the room, etc.
I'll think that through and post before making any moves.
Libby and Truegritter, you have given me hope that although I am scared to death to do this, it's what I need to do for me.
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On the other side of this very hard exercise is peace and strength.
This is what I need and I need to hear. Thank you all. I don't want to do this, I really, really don't. I want to do what worked for me before, during his last A, but this A is different, it's different in how it feels and how he's treating me. For one thing, we still had a strong friendship and were hanging out constantly during his first A... this time he is hanging with OW and leaving me entirely alone (with the kids)
My stepdaughter, at 16 years old, is wise beyond her years. She said tonight that (1) she thinks of Dad as having multiple personality disorder, and (2) that I should not push him or address him when he's the alien because his "other" will stay in charge of his mind, and if you don't push him, his "other" will be put away. Also, she texted DSS20 and asked if he knew that his dad was lying to him when he said he was sleeping in the living room b/c of his snoring and he said yes, he knew that. They're not stupid, and are upset that H is lying to them.
