Thank you, Old Pilot! That was very kind of you! I read it and alas, if only my WH was a MLCer. NOT that spouses of MLCers have it better (lol!) BUT that it at least offers an explanation and there are patterns.

Maybe if my WH one day realizes the mistake he made, reconnecting will look similar to that of an MLCer.

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004