Just another broken heart

[JacT]

Sounds like you have the evidence that this could be a MLC triggered by her mothers death.I am not sure medically what the view is in MLC but the comparison I make(which may sound a little warped)is when I saw a dead body for the first time.It was my Papa(M dad) and when I looked at him lying there, I thought, stopping a heart beating cannot leave someone looking as empty as he did.Does that make sense? It was then I really believed in the soul.
Looking at my H I feel the same way.I cannot believe someone could change so much without something fundamentally different going on in their brain.
Keep your chin up..what will be will be and you will deal wit h whatever is thrown at you...
There are many people here have initiated filing or have their spouses do the same and it is stopped, doesnt go any further, or does happen and they get back together afterwards(MOI!)
You are right to keep your expections low but from what you say, I am not convinced your W has what she wants.She sounds very lost to me.If communication was a problem as a child, it will still be now.She may struggle to articulate what she wants.
You say her childhood was good but then say she wasnt close to her brother, struggled to comm with mum and dad especially dad, it sounds to me there are some issues she is not facing up to. There have been lots of activity in the family, they may do things for each other out of duty but was there real love and depth of feeling?
Forgive me if I am speaking out of turn and could be wrong but I am sensing that the family wasnt glued together as cohesively as it seemed or she has told you.
She is maybe running from being in that sitch with you because it was less than perfect for her as a child.It also seems the focus with this other guy is material based, nice cars,clothers, holidays.
We know(and I am sure in your career more than most)that these things are really not important.I would live in a tent with with my H.We own 2 houses, 6 bedroom and 3 bedroom(house for mum and dad), great car, luxury caravan, savings etc etc but it doesnt matter,in the end its about how you connect as a couple, family etc.
I dont get the feeling that your W is connecting on that level with this OM and thats whats starting to spook her...could be wrong but consider myself to be very emotionally Intelligent and I aint got a good feeling about their R.