hi everyone! off to meet him in 30mins.. No soapboxing..promise! No idea what he wants to talk about apart from admin. Maybe the name again?
Probably whether or not to hyphenate the surname of bub. I suppose I can say "I need time to think through it one last time?" Does that work?
He may also like to talk to me about BIL and general chit chat. Do I engage in that? Politely, not like we would in the 'old days'?
He might want to talk to me about his work and precarious living arrangements... not sure what he'll ask exactly.
About the "softening" - he did reach out... but I felt it was cake eating.
Maybe I am meant to be counterintuitive and let him cake eat????
I am trying to remember that my coach said he was feeling inadequate, so I should try to make him feel more adequate?
Here's what Coach (not mine, but the vet here) is saying on his thread;
agree with the WAS Drop the rope (let him go) GAL (become interesting - I think the way I can be interesting is by being the one with the baby!), walkaway (be the first to leave)
Tell myself:
I am fine without WAH I don't need him Detach
and yet somehow meld the above with 'Respond in a way that reflects your values and beliefs, not feelings..."
