What to do when their friends suggest leaving?

[Bummedout]

- do you really invest time in keeping track of "cheap shots"?

No, not really. So I don't.

- if you really want to learn about other people's experiences then "my advice to you" is to read other people's threads instead of asking them to regurgitate those experiences on your thread for your benefit.
good luck!

I actually spent a couple hours looking for others experiences on this particular part of the problem before I even posted. I didn't find anything that more than kinda "touched" on it. I did find one theread that sorta covered it, a long one actually that went for quite some time.

Apparently they went with "do nothing", and quite some time later it didn't seem to be going well for that poor person. Not that I'm saying that "doing nothing" about friends bad advice led to the apparent failing . . .but it clearly didn't help . . .sorta like my situation.

I think many of you underestimate the damage and setback this can cause a relationship, and apparently aren't real keen on figuring out if there might be something or some things that one might be able to try to at least mitigate the damage. I find this rather "stubbornly holding onto doing nothing" as a solution to a very real part of the problem rather puzzling . . .and to use the overused buzzword "counterintuitive"

And unfortunately, you apparently miss the value a more detailed discussion in depth that specifically focuses on this part of the 'Divorce Busting' problem might have for others, not just "selfish old me."

To be honest . . .which of course ya'lll interpret as "arrogant" . . . I'd rather get this thread refocused on what I actually asked about, instead of a tag team match to see 'who can inappropriately psychoanalyze Bummedout the harshest.' So . . . .

Any of ya'll ever tried to do something besides 'nothing' in dealing with the problem of friends supporting your spouse in wanting to end your relationship?