Let me see... Babydoll? Nickname my mom called me and H stuck to it for years...
Gatsby, definitely sounds like your H is in Mental Crisis and is terribly afraid of having a baby.
NM, Im not sure the amount of years we spent together makes a difference. I met H 17 years ago... He always said he liked me and we were young teenagers! He tortued me and became friends w me and I never really like him that way. We decided 12 years ago, to be friendly, as we would get into little tiffs about silly things, like he would make fun of guys I liked and so on.
We decided to be friends and a week later, we BOTH agreed that we felt like we fell for each other... HARD.
We dated for 6 years before we got engaged, pretty much to finish college and start careers, etc. We were always a part of each other lives.
We got married, and I truly can remember thinking I Was the happiest human soul alive! Family and friends tell us it was the best wedding ever bc our love for one another overpowered the room and exhuded through our skin.
H and I planned to start a family in the fall 2009. Last summer I became a little scared bc I was worried about H's schooling and wanted him to not have to stress about finances while we were PG etc. He is the one who would say, we can do this!!! We are both ready!!! I always said I would know when I was ready... well just because... I tend to rely on my instincts.
H and I talked about it in Sept and we were so happy an excited and started to plan for a baby!!! We decided to get PG in October and looks like this little soul was anxious to come to us, as we got PG right away! H was ecstatic! Happier than I'd ever seen him... like on our wedding day. He showed no signs of depression or fear. December was rough for him school wise. He had a series of difficult exams, and was studying a lot. Now H says he feels him putting school first instead of us, created the distance. He says all otehr couples dedicate their first few years of M to each other, and him with school, caused a drift. Words from his mouth.
i also think pregnancy was a trigger for him to feel like he couldnt handle us anymroe. Actually I noticed that the past 4 months he still would say he had so much school stuff to do and used it as an excuse. And now that his workload is lightening up and he has a little bit of free time, he is starting to remember me and the baby.
I once said to him (given to me by his sister), you are about to come into a life that you worked so hard for. All the sacrifices that were made to better yourself and your family, financially, emotionall, physically, are finally falling into place. Why walk away now, without trying to see how our M and our family could be without all of those stressors.
Sorry I wrote such a long post... i realize that although we have so many similiarities among us, we have our differences too and we are still all in the same boat!
