Friends I hear what you guys are saying but I'm not really understanding what I need to do differently. For example, FM said "I would love to see you drop the rope" - OK what does dropping the rope mean in my situation? I felt I was just explaining wii that some of the problems were related to me becoming too accommodating.

When you say don't be Mr. Nice Guy...well I don't think I'm going out of the way to be nice to her but I am trying to maintain an amicable relationship for DD's sake later on.

The letting go part...I feel I already have for the most part but I don't want to lie about it either. Sometimes I do miss her and want her back. My feelings for her change daily.

So I know you guys are trying to help me but can someone give me specific examples so I understand what I'm doing wrong and what I need to do differently?

Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6
Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks
Aug 2006, left again
Apr 2007, filed for divorce
Dec 2007, reunited
Mar 2010, moved out, filed again