I know if he returned it would be quiet, phone call or knock on the door at night, phonecall out of the blue.I am worried he is still too weak and in deep replay.
Extending a hand to be his friend doesn't necessarily mean him coming home...but opening the door to be his friend, talk to him, listen to him...he sounds like a very sensitive man...and like I felt when I read your sitch...very afraid of rejection especially considering his rejection from childhood by his mother...not many know that a relationship between mother and son is actually more crutial to the development of the man then between father and son...the same with Father and daughter being more then mother daughter...
Sounds like your MIL had some deep issues herself...
I don't know how things work there but I did call and talk to my H's doctor and told him what was going on and he did a mini intervention with him on his next visit...he was the key to getting H to agree to antidepressants.
