SR- I agree with everything FM says. It's time to focus on you now and letting go for yourself. If she comes back to you later, fantastic. If not, you'll be a lot happier if you deal with this stuff and make YOU and DD a priority, taking charge of your life.
(with love)
alice
When the men on the chessboard Get up and tell you where to go; And you've just had some kind of mushroom And your mind is moving slow; Go ask Alice... I think she'll know.