Do everything you can to avoid any R talk. You don't know what he has on his mind. Maybe he broke up with OW. Maybe he is on the fence. We don't know that. But you certainly don't need to give him any excuses do you? If he wants to do something, let him be the one that makes that decision on his own, with no help from you.
Don't make him choose either. It's a big gamble that you could lose. Let him choose all on his own. The goal is to make the OW be the bad guy here, and for him to choose YOU.
Okay, so you are thinking of some 180's. You're gonna be upbeat. Change the scenery. Etc....I also like what Ellie said to her H. That was a very good line.
But something I have to ask the group....What if he does initiate R talk? How should Cathy respond? She can't ignore him. To me, this is the tricky part.
Me 47 Ex H 46 Bomb 9/02 D final 3/04 Ex H now married to OW
------------ This is surviving. There is no such thing as a normal life, there's just life. So get on with it and enjoy it!
