Quote: Maybe he was expecting me to call him and be upset and demand to know where he was. I was cheery when he called, he hung up on me the first time I answered and then called back a few minutes later and I answered just as cheerful.
I think you are absolutely right about this. Knocked him off balance I'm sure.
Now - be prepared for him to try to push your buttons tonight. After all, if he could provoke you into a screaming rage then he could justify leaving again. Don't let him do it! Don't give him an excuse.
Also - if things get too uncomfortable - remember what Michele says about changing the scenery. Move to a different room, or suggest a walk, or something. Don't end up in the room you usually argue in, okay? Change the scenery. I used to make cheat notes to myself, put them in my pocket, and excuse myself to the bathroom to read them when necessary. Try printing these off and putting them in your pocket:
Quote: Novelty 180s Will this get me closer to my goal? Beginner's mind Do something wacky and unpredictable PMA Validate, validate, validate Move to a different location
