Hey June, your sitch IS similar. Do you have any earlier threads I can go back and read?
You sound like you are doing wonderfully in the sex department--I aspire to be so bold!! I do see myself in the future being much better as I embrace this sort of thing now. I have always loved sex and been willing--it's just I haven't been flirty or dressed real daring or gone to bed naked (H steals covers and I get cold.) Flirting doesn't come naturally to me at all, but I'm wanting to change that.
Let me ask you though--how do you handle the rejection? or is there none at this point? I can handle rejection better when I am detached, and I feel pretty "daring" at this point, but along with the detachment I have lost "romantic love" for him bigtime. I am also not good at faking it.
So for now I have to stay detached in order to function in a non-reactive way with him. I think this is what I have to do for a while--I will "turn it on" more as he starts to get better in other areas.
I have been thinking of "scripts" and how they seem to be pretty powerful if said in the right way. I have been saying pretty consistently to my H "I need a man that goes to church with me." Tomorrow, he is going to church!
And just lately I have been saying "I need a man that has sex wtih me regularly". I am going to continue that one and see what happens.
