I don't know JacT. Probably shouldn't even be analysing this crap as I'm supposed to be detached. But anyway, as I can't stop myself I'm reading possibilities as follows (whilst roast chicken is cooking )
a) She just wants totally done with it all, has been scared by small claims court request for money and the potential effects on her career and is washing her hands in the easiest way possible, despite having to swallow her pride to do this after all the ridiculous txt msg about me owing her more money in rent than she owes me. I'm sure it makes life easier with the OM if little legal and financial irritations from me aren't on her mind.
b) She's finally seen her surrogate Mum who has given her what for and told her to "man up" and pay the money, she's being a complete fool over both the money and the marriage.
c) She found out somehow (perhaps from surrogate Mum - can't think of anyone else I've told that would have any contact with her) that I had a date and wanted to check up on me. I don't think E would tell her about my date, so unlikely.
d) She wanted to see me for some other reason, like not letting go completely, or wanting to keep me hanging, or to placate her own guilt.
I think a is most likely. It is interfering with her thoughts, and she doesn't want it hanging over her. This was the quickest way to get rid of it, even if it cost her. She clearly has the money right now.
Either way, I am financially more stable, and feel I have won a small battle with decorum, pride and morals intact. She has seen me looking good (more comments at work in the last few days), unphased by her surprise appearance, in a nice clean and tidy house with a roast chicken in the oven, and another woman in my kitchen. She has had to back down on this one.
I'm not sure I can claim to be totally detached. My heart was still racing when she left. But according to the 'other woman' present - I was the epitomy of cool calm collection on the outside. I feel puzzled, slightly emotional, and I can't deny that it has opened a tiny glimmer of hope in my mind. I'd totally given up on her, and now I'm not so sure again.
I'm probably being far too hopeful even with that and need a 2x4 quickly.
Reality is that which, if you don't believe in it, doesn't go away.
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present - I was the epitomy of cool calm collection on the outside. I feel puzzled, slightly emotional, and I can't deny that it has opened a tiny glimmer of hope in my mind. I'd totally given up on her, and now I'm not so sure again.
