First Piecing Thread

[Hope4us]

Hi Pup. Doing ok, thanks for asking. Don't look at DB much anymore. Every once in a while. W is working some OT today and I ran around a bit this morning picking up Mothers Day stuff, paying some bills, etc and had a couple minutes before she gets home, so I thought I'd take a look.

We're going to the land of the mouse in about a month. Really looking forward to it, as is W.

Our youngest turned 18 a month ago, he graduates in a couple weeks, signed him up for the local community college last week. He's going to take Paramedic training which will lead him into either the Fire Fighting program or the RN program. He's not sure which yet. I suspect he'll head to the RN program. One of his good friends parents are both RN's and he really likes and respects them and the jobs they both do, so I think that's where he'll eventually go.

We're just plugging along. I'm finding that most of the issues I have now are all self inflicted. Case in point. Remember the Facebook thing I was so worried about a month or so ago. Well, just yesterday I discovered that when you check out the CNN website that it puts a Facebook "cookie" out there on your browser. W looks at CNN almost daily. So all that time I was worried about her looking at OM's FB page and it was just her checking out CNN.

Other than that, things are pretty normal. I'm actually learning more about myself than anything. Things that before I would think were her issues I'm discovering are more how I react or the thoughts in my own head. Learning more that there are so many triggers from this mess that sometimes I don't even realize why I'm so upset until I really examine just what's going on.

Like this week. W has had a VERY BAD week at work, including the OT today. She had to be at work at 6:00 this morning and Mrs H4U is NOT a morning person. So earlier this week I had to catch myself when I was beginning to become selfish when I wasn't getting the attention from her that I've come to expect/enjoy. And this OT today is a HUGE trigger for me. 3 years ago around this time is when I first became really concerned about her "friendship" with OM. She had to work a Saturday then for the same reason as today (they're conducting a pre-employment test for 11 open positions at her work).

I had gone on a bird watching hike that day. When the next cell phone bill came in I took a look at it and she was calling/texting OM while she was "working" and after she was done she went to his apartment to hook up (which I figured out later as one of the people she was working with mentioned being done around 12:30 and W told me she was working til 3 and then went out for some drinks with coworkers for a couple hours, which was another lie).

So anyway, her having to work today for the testing has made the last week or so pretty tough for me. But I didn't figure out why I was feeling so apprehensive for the last week until just a day or two ago. Once I figured that out, I was able to deal with the anger/sadness.

Other than that, doing well. W and I still have our issues, but it's becoming more and more like normal couples have. But the difference now is that when either of us does something that annoys the other, we bring it up and it's over before it gets out of hand.

Thanks for asking. Talk to you later.