So here's my question: is there any way someone else can help someone deal with an MLC before it reaches a crisis point, or is this something he has to figure out all on his own? I don't know the answer. All I know is that, even if I had transformed myself into some kind of Stepford wife, I don't think it would have kept him from going where he went.
Good question and good point Geomom. From what the experts say here on this forum, it sounds like there isn't necessarily a way of preventing a MLC. I guess it's just not obvious to me in my sitch how much of our marriage failure is due to H's MLC, and how much is due to life stress and our not caretaking our M and taking proactive steps. In my sitch, I think there were quite a few contributing factors.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
